People with an Enneagram type four personality tend to be creative, sensitive, and expressive in their behavior. They like to be unique and seek to find their own identity. Though they desire relationships, they may seem distant and reserved, especially in group settings.
The basic fear of the Type 4 is that they do not matter or have significant impact on the world. In less healthy times, they often feel misunderstood, outcast, and unrelatable. In order to distinguish themselves from others, Fours may work hard to be unique, creative, and expressive.
They desire their own identity and self-expression. They have an innate need to authentic, but may struggle along the way to discovering their individuality. Fours may feel misunderstood if others fail to recognize their distinctiveness.
Creatives tend to defend themselves by unintentionally adapting characteristics from friends, in order to appear more genuine.
In summary, Enneagram
personalities tend to...
Seek their own identity separate from others
Want to leave a lasting impression on the world
Fear having no significance
Be creative, artistic, and expressive
Seem reserved or withdrawn in large groups
Every personality archetype has strengths and blind spots, and these are often amplified in professional settings where we often encounter a diverse group of people with vastly different backgrounds and value systems.
Strengths that are typically associated with the Enneagram
Ability to connect deeply with their own emotions
Sensitivity to and understanding of others’ feelings
General awareness of their own growth areas
Imaginative and creative deep-thinking
Being consistently and authentically themselves
Weaknesses that are typically associated with the Enneagram
Withdrawing in times of difficulty
Fixating on what they don’t have
Tendency to focus too much on themselves
Reacting strongly and emotionally to hardship
Growth opportunities that are typically associated with the Enneagram
Recognizing and redirecting self-centered motivations
Taking some time to reflect on the positive aspects of life
Developing breathing exercises to help process overwhelming situations
Understanding that other people can help them work through problems
Avoid being overly logical and focus on sharing your feelings; appreciate their connection with their emotions.
Meeting with an Enneagram
Be optimistic and encouraging, inviting fours to be themselves and share their voice.
Emailing an Enneagram
Keep emails to a minimum, avoiding chit-chat and making an effort to be authentic or expressive.
Giving feedback to an Enneagram
Be sensitive with feedback; share encouragements and frame negative feedback as an opportunity for growth.
Resolving conflict with an Enneagram
Openly share your feelings and connect with a type four emotionally; empathize without trying to agree completely, which allows them personal autonomy and individuality.
When people experience pain, stress, or dissatisfaction, it can usually be attributed to energy-draining activities. Therefore, it’s important to know what kinds of activities energize each personality type and which activities drain them.
s tend to be motivated and energized by...
Building connections and relationships with others
Taking personal time to reconnect with themselves
Expressing their emotions through a form of art
Feeling valued and accepted for who they are
s tend to be stressed and drained by...
Casual or meaningless conversation
Parties and large groups of unfamiliar people
Lack of personal creativity
Being interrupted or facing an argument
Type Fours tend to thrive in environments that allow them to remain autonomous and be authentically themselves. They enjoy creatively expressing themselves and building relationships with coworkers.
s feel energized at work when...
They are asked to express how they’re feeling
Their boss takes the time to get to know them
Their peers are attentive, genuine, and open-minded
Their direct reports understand their vision
s feel drained at work when...
They lack the opportunity to be creative
Their boss criticizes their work
Their peers are critical and distant
Their direct reports don’t take them seriously
Fours are emotionally expressive, creative thinkers. They are genuine and insightful, challenging those around them to connect more deeply with themselves.
Common jobs for people with Enneagram
When type Fours work alongside people who are logical and even-tempered, they can help inspire creative solutions. If they work with another Four, they should each focus on connecting through their creative passions.
s tend to work well with others who...
Ask them questions about themselves
Acknowledge and affirm their individuality
Appreciate their creativity and self-expression
s may hit obstacles in professional relationships when they...
React strongly to critical feedback
Distance themselves in times of stress
Focus too much of their attention on themselves
Type Fours can be romantic, emotional partners when with someone who works to connect with them on a deeper level and keep open lines of communication. Fours should be careful not to idealize or set impossible expectations for their partners.
In a romantic relationship, Enneagram
s bring strengths like...
Focus and attention toward relationship
Being more inclined to share emotions openly
Recognizing the ways in which they need to grow
In romantic relationships, Enneagram
s may have trouble...
Accepting realistic expectations of a relationship
Maintaining a consistent, balanced mood
Separating their emotions from an argument or disagreement